Even love for people waxes and wanes. We soon grow comfortable with our “loved ones” and often take them for granted. We lose the excitement we once had just thinking about them.
We busy ourselves with all sorts of “other” activities that seem more exciting.
Don’t worry, you are not strange. You are merely reflecting the normal cycles of life that we go through. Cycles of self-interest. Cycles of boredom and disinterest.
There are cycles to our sleeping, eating, working and recreation. All our lives are guided by various cycles.
Our passion and love is just one more cycle that’s part of being human.
Even when once we were keenly aware and focused on the ones we love, we gradually “cool” and find ourselves questioning our love.
Perhaps they become replaced by another more “attractive”. Perhaps we simply get tired.
Whatever it is, our loved ones know quickly when we’ve become disinterested in them. (Don’t you pick up on the signs that someone has moved on?)
And while they see the love light in our eyes grow dull, they often wait in patience for us to “come back” to them, (even if we see them in the same room with them day after day.)
Some do grow tired of waiting and “check themselves out”, getting busy with other details of life, or even physically get up and leave.
It’s said that many of us
live lives of quiet desperation.
And all too often,
those lives are also ones
of lonely emptiness.
It’s time like this that we need a renewal of our love. We need to put our priorities back in place, to think long and hard just what the other person means to us.
It’s at times like this that we need to wake up to the possibilities of life God offers us in a new season of our lives, of being offered a revival from the “dead space” we’ve found ourselves living in.
And we may need to do this more than once in our lives. For remember, this is a natural cycle. It happens to all of us.
How we get through such “dead times” will depend on how deeply we keep our commitments and covenants to each other and to God.
It depends on how willing we are to let God’s Holy Spirit move in our lives even when we are lost and alone. How open we are to explore the gifts of the Christian tradition that are often cast aside in a broken world.
Perhaps it was a tragedy that broke our hearts and left us unable to be strong in love.
Perhaps it was a rejection by a loved one or a gradual cooling of loves fires.
Whatever it is, we are challenged to wake up and invite love back into our lives. We are asked to give Christ a chance to renew and revive our love.
All of this involves our Spiritual Life. These cycles are spiritual cycles. They consist of cycles of deep love and passion followed by cycles of numbing boredom and mindless activity.
The actions and rituals we once found stimulating and profound grow to feel empty and meaningless. Even the music we once cherished now sounds dull and repetitive.
Our souls wither and we wonder if there is any reason to live anymore.
Time, and time, and time again Jesus confronted the people around him who had lost touch with God.
He invited people who just going through the motions, “rule-keeping” and “keeping up appearances” to become healed and real again.
He invited those who were wounded so bad they thought they could never love again. And he invited those who were simply playing out the role they thought they had to play, living responsibly, but without joy or a sense that they mattered.
To each and every one Christ makes the same promise:
You needn't be dead to the world. Your lost love is not permanent.
Life is still filled with love and is exciting and challenging. The Tomb doesn't stop it.
Life is ready to be explored and it doesn't end with death.
Life is a gift of eternity…. If only we wake up to the reality that love truly conquers death.
This is THE Message of Easter. A message we need to remind ourselves of every year, every Sunday, every day.
What are you doing with your life? Has your spirit gone fallow? Or are you willing to let new life come and revive you? Join us with an Easter filled with meaning.
What scripture has stayed with you this week?
What have others learned about Jesus Christ through of you?
How goes it with your soul?
Grace and Peace,
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