I had reserved an aisle seat for the legroom but made the change anyway. I was angry the whole flight (4 hours!) Should I have refused the trade?
A: For me, Airline flights are full of trials and tribulations, especially nowadays. Such trips are good opportunities to strengthen your prayer discipline and practice Godly patience!
Sometimes when we do the right thing, we regret it later. It may be for the reasons you mentioned, but it may be because we discover we made the wrong decision.
(For example, the couple mentioned above could have just met and were not married at all!)
No one wants to be taken advantage of, especially when you are trying to be helpful!
The only thing you can do now is
prepare for similar situations in the future. What will be your response be? Is your heart now hardened to such requests? Do you have new ways of dealing with your angry and irritable feelings?
Each moment presents us with a choice.
Do we go with our feelings, (embarrassment, affront, anger, irritation, etc.) or do we discover a deeper spiritual level of God’s presence?
In this case, you offered love and sacrifice.
That can never be changed regardless of the motives of the other persons. It was a gracious and powerful gift.
In addition, you now had a new situation to explore. Were there new people next to you? Was there some new way to be of help?
Perhaps some meditation techniques would help next time: slow breathing, focusing on God, bringing to mind the presence of the Holy Spirit, remembering some bible passages and stories?
If you are going to fume and complain over your acts of kindness and mercy, then I suggest you explore why you feel so angry over such situations. Seek out a spiritual friend or counselor, discover the reasons for your reaction, address them through prayer and meditation.
Discuss this situation with Christ in prayer, you may discover a whole new “growing edge” in your life that will lead you to healing and wholeness.