It had all the marks of being stolen and was cheap ($25)
My son claims it’s legit. Owned by the guy he got it from. I have seen the guy and he looks pretty
What do I do? Any questioning of the source releases an angry “you don’t trust me!” response.
A: It’s clear you are well into the jungle of teen-parent relationships. One moment calm and peaceful, the next sullen, dismissive, argumentative… (or all at once!)
What might seem a simple act of verification painfully escalates into war.
In this case, it’s difficult to determine the truth.
The hope here is a stronger relationship and an
opportunity for character building rather than painful estrangement. That means clear and firm communication of your concerns and a willingness to allow some ambiguity in the response.
(Also, it’s important to look for a pattern. If so, a more drastic action is needed. …Like tracking serial numbers!)
Start with prayer (Have you tried prayer with your son present? Praying for him, the family and for your relationship; and for calmness in your reaction?)
Then communicate your deeper values, stating your case clearly and at the same time allowing
room for false assumptions and misunderstandings. You son is transitioning into an adult. This is a time to treat him like one.
Then simply watch. You don’t have enough evidence yet to act.
He may not rise to the occasion, but you have given him loving guidelines. Perhaps you’ll catch him “doing the right thing.”